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There are so many things in life that one doesn’t learn in school or from their parents. One thing I wish someone had talked to me about was how my body could change, and that I may lose my desire for sex. YES, I said it… I have lost my desire for sex. Or better yet, lost my libido. Can someone find it for me please, because I really hate feeling like I do. Loss of libido means no sex in my household! I know, #funnynotfunny!
I have looked everywhere for my libido. It’s not under the bed, or the couch, or in my husband’s garage. I even checked the dryer, the oven, and the drawer next to the bed that holds all our fun adult toys, that we used to use when I had my libido! Again, #funnynotfunny! What is even more sad about the whole thing is that I feel bad for my husband. I love him, find him extremely sexy and want to enjoy our bedroom gymnastics like we used to, but I just can’t “get in the mood,” no matter what we try. I can be home all day while hubby is at work, thinking about sex and how our evening will go. Then, hubby gets home, and we eat dinner and watch TV and go to bed. Boring!
Back in the day, we used to be very sexually active. In our 20s, we would have fun several days a week. Now, it’s more like once a month. Man, just typing that out makes me feel like I might as well be a Nun! How did this happen? What happened! I really hate it and feel it’s time I talk to my doctor.
As a first step, I visited FindMySpark.com. I was relieved to know that I am not alone. Levels of libido are different for everyone. My issues might not be the same as yours, and yours might not be the same as other women you know. But, bottom line is that we are not alone, there is help, and I know I can find my libido again.
I feel there are many things thrown into the mix for me that may have caused me to lose my libido. Stress of work, home, money, kids, pets, my goals, the pressure I put on myself to make sure I am the caregiver and doer of all!
For some women, their lack of libido can be a symptom of a medical condition called hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), which is the most common female sexual dysfunction (FSD). Nearly 4 million premenopausal women in the U.S. are impacted by HSDD, and most times in silence. If you feel you have FSD you should talk to your healthcare provider today to find out if there is help for you.
For women with low libido, including women with HSDD, they often find themselves feeling guilty, isolated, or confused on how to fix it. Kind of like how I feel now! I am so glad I found Find My Spark and now know that I am not alone and I can get help. If you can relate to what I am telling you, about my loss of libido, then maybe it’s time you take this sexual health quiz and talk to your doctor. Don’t be scared, you are not alone. For a long time I thought it was just me. I would chat with friends about sex, and it always seemed as though I was the odd duck out because others seemed to be having it when I wasn’t. But, I feel sometimes others are just scared to really talk about their lack of sex. And they shouldn’t be! A healthy sex life is important to a relationship, and your overall wellbeing!